The best lesbian dating apps to use this November

Who's it for:

Apps like Tinder and Bumble are technically for all orientations, but they'll be damned if they don't sneak some male profiles into your feed even if you've specified the opposite. Given the existence of Grindr, the need for an online dating platform specifically for queer women was clear — thus, HER. Founders of the award-winning app are committed to cultivating a space that’s “so ragingly queer" that frustrated women can delete apps that don't feel like home.

Why we picked this:

As its user base of more than 15 million grows, HER could widen your dating pool beyond the queer women you already know. The traditional text bio is where you can flex your sense of humor or describe what kind of relationship you're seeking. Joining niche groups like "newly out" or "travelers" can also connect you with people using the app for similar reasons.

"HER is built specifically and uniquely for the sapphic community," the CEO and founder of HER, Robyn Exton, tells Mashable. "There are parts of lesbian, bisexual, and queer identities that are so important to express on profiles and connect through that mainstream heteronormative apps will never provide for LGBTQ+ users."

One of those features is HER's unique Pride Pins, which let you show off important aspects of your identity (think femme, masc, stud, etc.) and even filter for other users based on those pins — all for free. No other app does that, folks.

Exton also tells us that HER's commitment to the queer community goes beyond virtual connections. "Beyond that, we're also integrated with the LGBTQ+ community IRL — listing events for our users to attend together and ways to discover new ways of meeting sapphics in their area outside of the app."

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Read our full review of OkCupid.

Who's it for:

OkCupid's slogan is "Dating deserves better," and they're damn right — especially for queer and non-binary folks. This nearly 20-year-old dating site has shed the heteronormative vibes that still cling to platforms like eharmony and Match. While this is an older platform, OkCupid is a hip app that's modernized with the times. It provides a more serious atmosphere than Tinder, but without sacrificing the fun. And if you prefer matching algorithms to swiping, give this app a shot.

Why we picked this:

OkCupid consistently leads the charge of inclusivity in online dating. Back in 2014, long before other dating sites caught on, OkCupid was already offering 22 gender and 13 orientation choices. Fast-forward to the present day, when all users can choose their pronouns.

OkCupid focuses on matching users who share similar values, and this is one of the key features that sets it apart from the competition. For many young, queer, and left-leaning singles, shared beliefs around social justice issues are essential for a potential partner. OkCupid lets you filter out people you'd clash with by asking users to answer deal-breaker questions about topics like gun ownership or vaccinations.

OkCupid's trendy redesign makes the free experience genuinely fun to use. Plus, the matching algorithm goes beyond surface-level preferences. It analyzes your answers to questions about communication styles, relationship goals, and political views to calculate a compatibility score and highlight areas of agreement or disagreement.

Read our full Tinder Platinum review.

Who's it for:

It's still a lawless land, but the huge LGBTQ+ user base and added pronouns make Tinder a viable option for gay gals. If you're looking for a place where you're guaranteed to find a massive pool of potential matches, Tinder is your app. Sure, Tinder sometimes gets a bad rap for creepy users/messages — and rightfully so. But given its sheer number of active users, which includes a lot of queer folks, we couldn't leave it off the list.

Why we picked this:

There's a strong chance you know at least one couple that got their start on Tinder. Countless success stories are told on Reddit when someone asks about where to meet other lesbians. You know the drill: Add pictures, set an age range, and fill out a bio. While you'll have to swipe your way to a match, this is the best app for scoping out the lesbians in your area. And as the most popular dating app, it has a huge user base.

"If you’re looking for a casual hookup with a wide user base, Tinder is usually an easy place to start," Kiana Reeves, Somatic Sex Educator, Intimacy Coach, and Chief Education Officer at Foria, tells Mashable. "The app allows you to filter potential matches based on gender, location, and age preferences and will certainly give you a broad sense of what the dating scene is like in your area across a wide range of interests and ages."

Though your feed will likely be packed with way more lesbians than other apps, it'll see more appearances by men, too. Tinder has a tendency to ignore filters here and there, though men obviously can't talk to anyone who doesn't swipe right. Who can message you, though, are the girls you swipe right for who, surprise, aren't on Tinder to meet women romantically. Some are looking for friends, some are recruiting a third for a threesome with their boyfriend — either way, you'll have to do some weeding. If you want to level up your Tinder game, the app offers multiple premium subscription options with bonus features like unlimited swipes, Boosts to increase your visibility, and the ability to see who's already liked you.

Thankfully, Tinder has made some changes within the last few years to improve its safety features, including verified profiles and the "Does This Bother You?" feature, which flags potentially inappropriate messages and asks the receiver if they'd like to report them. You can also block other users for shitty behavior, which is nice.

Who it's for:

Young people looking to at least go on a few dates with the same person instead of beelining for a friends-with-benefits situation was a blind spot for swiping apps — until Hinge blew up. The premise and user base might be in the Tinder and Bumble realm, but these three aren't interchangeable.

Hinge's unique profile criteria and algorithm based on that criteria set matches up for real-life potential. Some 90 percent say the first date was great and 72 percent are down for a second date.

Why we picked this:

According to Hinge's 2024 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E. report, queer daters are craving emotional intimacy and a slower pace — a "slowmance," as they call it. And if that's what you want, Hinge delivers. Instead of endless swiping, Hinge encourages more intentional connections by having you like or comment on specific prompts. With the new "Your Turn Limits" feature, you're nudged to keep conversations going to help prevent ghosting and other jackassery.

"For women in their 20s and 30s looking for something a little more serious than Tinder, both Hinge and Bumble are great options," Reeves adds. "Both apps provide a bunch of prompts that make it easy to start up a conversation and meet new people, without the pressure of diving into a new relationship right away."

Unlike Tinder and Bumble, which seem to have faulty gaydar, Hinge users report far fewer men popping up in their feeds uninvited. Hinge users also experience more genuine queer people (and less unicorn hunting) on the app compared to the other big players.

Some women say Hinge helped them come into an era of self-discovery as queer individuals. Emma, who’s keeping her last name out of this, told Mashable she downloaded Hinge (with the support of her ex-boyfriend) and set it to women only and realized it was so much easier to create a profile with women instead of men in mind — she said it finally allowed her to stop "trying to be someone [she's] not." Now, she’s in a happy relationship with a woman she met on Hinge.

Who it's for:

If you’re ready to get off of TikTok but aren’t totally ready to get on a traditional dating app, Fem is a pretty good in-between. The platform is video-driven like TikTok but focused on connecting queer women. That said, if your future dream girl has an iPhone, you won't find her here, as it's an Android-only app.

Why we picked this:

As we’ve mentioned, TikTok has been the place where women have had a sapphic awakening. (If you're not on lesbian TikTok, you're missing out, truly). But, while the TikTok algorithm is great at giving you *more like this*, it’s not really designed to find your person (though we know people who've had some luck with it).

Fem is basically the dating app version of the queer TikTok experience. It’s video-driven, with a feed that shows you people making quick vlog-style introductions. You can also chat (unlimited messages) for free right within the app. You can “heart” videos and match with girls you vibe with.

If you’d rather not talk one-on-one with a random match right away, Fem has public group chats, so you can join group conversations to get a feel for the community first. The downside is that this app is only available for Android users, but it does have 1M+ downloads, according to the Play Store, so the community is growing.

Who it's for:

Bumble is for every queer woman or non-binary person who's tired of wading through endless profiles only to find "straight but curious" chicks or couples seeking a third. Bumble gets it — you want a space where you call the shots. This app puts the power in your hands, letting you make the first move.

And if the other person doesn't message back within 24 hours? Poof, match gone. This punchy (albeit a bit jarring) approach could be refreshing for people who are tired of staring at a list of Tinder matches from six months ago. If nothing else, it's a comfort zone pusher — and a confidence booster when those first messages start coming in.

Why we picked this:

In an attempt to correct one of the common complaints of dating apps — that women get spammed with tons of creepy messages — women famously make the first move with Bumble. That method obviously doesn't apply to woman-woman matches, but that hasn't hampered the queer user base much.

In April, the app revamped its "First Move" feature to include "Opening Moves," which gives people who are uncomfortable sending the first message the option to set a question (or create one) so that matches can initiate a conversation. Bumble also added additional options to its "Dating Intentions" badges, including "life partner" and "fun, casual dates," so you're more likely to be matched with someone who's on the same page.

You'll see pictures and short bios of potential matches in your area and can swipe depending on whether you're interested. It's a pretty close mock of Tinder, except for the fact that Bumble relieves the anxiety of accidentally swiping left on a hottie by letting you backtrack. Bumble also offers a BFF feature (great for making local, queer friends) and a Linkedin-ish networking feature called Bizz in an attempt to remind everyone that it's not just a hookup app.

Who it's for:

Women should freely be able to express their sexuality online without the experience being soiled by male entitlement. Whether you're not comfortable with putting "sex only" in your Tinder bio for the locals to see or if you're simply a practicer of non-attachment with the people you bang, Pure is a safer, hip solution. It's also free for female users; only men are required to pay subscription fees.

Note: If you live in a small town, you might have a harder time finding matches nearby.

Why we picked this:

App rules urge you to "pretend like you're strangers afterwards," making no-strings-attached the only name of the game here. This app is a sex-positive, 18+ safe space that features some pretty cool art — the blueprint of the truly modern hookup app.

Your selfies, bio, conversations, matches, and likes self-destruct every 24 hours, promoting spur-of-the-moment, borderline anonymous hookups. No nudity is allowed and any photos sent in messages can't be saved. (As the dry-humored comics on their website state, "Don't talk about your problems. Problems are for therapists. Pure is for fun.") The app will ask for your phone number, but that's just to make sure you're a real person. The app uses your geolocation and sends out the sex version of an Uber request, though the sparse user base might have your searches suggesting the same few people.

Who it's for:

We love an app that cuts the bullshit. In this case, the bullshit includes cisgender straight men. Lex (short for Lexicon, formerly known as Personals) is a seriously cool social app for queer, trans, gender non-conforming, two-spirit, and non-binary people. As the major dating apps collapse into each other, Lex takes a refreshingly unique approach.

Why we picked this:

A nod to '80s and '90s lesbian erotica magazines (specifically On Our Backs), Lex was a Craigslist-esque personals app where users could post raunchy ads about who (or what) they were looking for, relationship-wise.

However, after its modern redesign, the platform now serves as a digital meetup space for queer people who are looking for community. The website's FAQ describes this rebrand as a transition from a "dating app to a vibrant social platform." Of course, this transition pissed off some of OG users.

What was once a low-fi, text-based alternative to traditional dating apps (where users could really get into the details of what they wanted) is now a queer space for platonic relationships.